Parenting is difficult, even under the best of circumstances. For some parents, disabilities provide challenges on top of those that non-disabled parents face. This doesn’t mean that a person with a catastrophic injury, such as a brain injury, can’t be a great parent to children.
It is hard to think about what you would do as a parent who has suffered a traumatic brain injury. One of the first things that you need to know is that you can do it. You might have to make some adaptations to how you parent, but it is fully possible.
Relax and take it one day at a time
Parenting isn’t a race or a contest. When you have a traumatic brain injury, you might have to take a little more time to process what is going on. This can be difficult when you are dealing with your child but unless there is a serious safety issue going on, you can usually take your time with most matters. No parent is perfect, so you shouldn’t expect that you will be. Relaxing a little bit and taking things one day at a time can help you to feel more secure in your ability to parent.
Make plans for difficult times
There might times when you will have difficulties either due to the children being extra rambunctious or the effects of your injury being worse than normal. Try to make plans for these situations. Having someone on standby can help when things get a little more challenging. Another adult can keep the kids under control without your get more stressed than you need to be.
Think about finances
You have to think about your financial situation. Raising children is expensive, but it isn’t impossible. Whether you are getting disability payments or have an income, you can create a budget to try to keep your finances in order. You might not be able to do everything your children want you to do, but you can do some of what your children wish to do.
One thing that could have big financial impacts for a parent with a brain injury is what happens with compensation and insurance matters related to their injury. So, when such matters come up, it could be beneficial to have quality legal guidance.
Life with a brain injury can be hard at times. Enjoying the love from your children can sometimes ease the situation. You may benefit from counseling and finding methods that facilitate effective parenting. Being able to enjoy time with your children is a gift.