Can nesting help our divorcing family?

Even if you are going through a divorce with your spouse, your kids will link you for a lifetime. If your children are still minors, it is highly likely that you will end up in a co-parenting situation after divorce.

Co-parenting is rife with problems, even if you and your ex-spouse are still a good parenting team. Moving children between houses can cause many issues. In response to this, some divorcing families are experimenting with a living arrangement called “nesting.” Nesting, according to Psychology Today, is when the family continues to maintain a single family living unit with the kids living there full time and the parents rotating in and out based on a custody arrangement.

What are the advantages to nesting?

One of the biggest advantages to nesting is that it impinges as little as possible upon the children. Particularly if the family elects to maintain the same family home they had prior to the divorce, there will be very little disruption to the children’s lives. They will be able to stay in the same neighborhood with the same friends and even the same bedroom.

Nesting may also be one of the only realistic ways for a family to maintain a footprint in an expensive area. Often, without nesting, families would need to move for financial reasons.

What are the disadvantages to nesting?

A nesting arrangement involves a lot of continued contact and cooperation with your ex-spouse. You will still need to jointly maintain the family house financially and also workout long-term arrangements for the off-duty parent.

For the majority of families, nesting is temporary. However, it can be a good way to keep stability in your family life through divorce.